This question is so common that it has become cliché. Everyone has a different opinion, making the truth as elusive as ever. Almost any girl will tell you that she is looking for a nice, sensitive guy. She wants a best friend who will treat her like "the princess" that she is.
So you come along as her knight is shining armor, Mr. Nice Guy, to rescue her from the jerks. You are a sensitive guy who will take the time to listen to all of her problems. You're a gentleman, the kind that opens doors and pulls out chairs. You are the ultimate good guy, here to save the day.
Then she thanks you for your time and, with wide-eyed excitement, tells you about the fantastic bad-boy that she wants to date. But she's so glad that you're her friend. Huh? What about wanting someone nice and sensitive?
Let's be honest. If being "nice and sensitive" were truly the
most attractive qualities that women seek in men, then all of the nice guys
would have scores of women beating a path to their door. Is this really
the case?
There is plenty of wisdom in the old adage, "The proof is in the pudding". Instead
of asking women what they want and getting confused by the their conflicting
opinions, let reality tell the story. Which guys do you see getting the
most attention from women? If you answer this question honestly, you'll
know the truth.
I'm not saying that women are intentionally plotting to mislead you. Rather, they are only giving you part of the actual picture. Sincerity and sensitivity are important qualities that define lasting relationships. But initially, before anything else matters, there must be attraction. So the real question should be:
What do women find attractive?
To answer this question, you must realize that men and women do not think alike. Men are visually stimulated; so we are turned-on by short skirts and tight bodies. This is evidenced by the many strip joints that exist for gentlemen.
But women are different. There are very few strip joints that cater to women, because visual stimulation is not their primary turn-on. Instead, women are emotionally attracted to powerful men.
Some people believe that this phenomenon originated from the caveman era. Whereas males sought young fertile women to produce offspring, females sought strong men who could hunt and protect the family. But that could all be mumbo jumbo. Either way, just look around and the point is self-evident.
So if you want to succeed with women, you must learn how to convey a sense of power. I'm not suggesting that you become a jerk, because the world has too many already. Rather, you need to be the guy who is both a gentleman and powerful - the perfect combination. If you master this, the women will come to you!
